Half Century

I will be 50 on December 15th. Added to the Thanksgiving, Black Friday, My 50th Birthday and Christmas is my daughter Linzy's 32nd Birthday on Dec 1, and my trip to Texas Dec 17 -26. It's going to be a full month. I have nothing planned for my 50th. I don't know what my family or friends have planned if anything. I was one of those people who couldn't wait to get old. I never conformed to what the young people around me were. I am not volumptuous, or especially stylish, I can usually take men or leave them, I was never a party animal, I never identified with any TV or music character or emulated any of them. What I did know was that all the old people I knew didn't give a damn what they wore, didn't care if they gained a few pounds and did what they damn well pleased. THAT'S what I wanted and I couldn't wait to get old to have it. Now I have it and it's WONDERFUL! I own my own home (or will in 7 years and 3 months), I don't owe anything on my cars, furniture, electronics, have one credit card which I owe nothing on, I have two cute dogs, two cute daughters, four cute grandkids, my health is relatively good, I feel great (except for my shoulder which is healing) I'm 20 pounds overweight and don't care, I wear mens pajamas to bed and don't care, I don't wear any makeup most of the time and don't care. What more could I want?

What I want in a Partner

Pam's acceptable significant other:

1. Educated or at least curious. I'm one of those people who can have just as much fun "making whoopi" as I can having a spirited conversation or debate with an interesting partner, even if their views are very different than mine.

2. They don't have to be a contest winner but I don't want to throw up or get scaird when I wake up next to them. No body builders, Hair is not necessarily a requirement although I do like it. It's just dead cells hanging from our heads. Just average build, I don't mind a slight spare tire. I'm 5'9" (175 cm) and weigh 160 pounds (11 stone, I don't know what you use for weight) I'm on a diet. I don't want some exercise fanatic but I would like someone fit enough to sail and likes to go for leisurely walks on occasion.

3. I don't need the person to be a Bill Gates or one of the Waltons. Money is nice but it's not everything. I live in a small house, it's mine and it's not a mansion and I'm not looking for someone to pick me up in a helicopter and sweep me off to Paris for lunch.

4. Have some awareness of themself, the world and the impact of their actions. I'm not a card carrying recycler or down at the beach everyday looking for whales to save but I am aware of my carbon footprint. I don't litter, try to use non aerosol products and try not to use too many chemicals or processed food because they just are not good for us.

5. Be comfortable in their skin. In other words, no macho or psycho idiots. I know who I am, I'm comfortable with who I am and I don't need to prove anything to anyone. I would like someone who is also comfortable in their skin. Wear a pink shirt, like the Carpenters music and admit it. Those are just examples.

6. Be ambitious. That doesn't mean be rich. That means want to improve your situation and have the drive to do it. I don't care if they are a plumber, be the best damn plumber in town.

7. Have a sense of humor. When we are 90 and sitting in our rocking chairs, I will still make my partner laugh and I would like that in return.

8. Sex. Sex is great, I'm the first to admit that but it is not the end all bomb of life. There are so many other things in life to be cherished, appreciated and done. I don't want to be with someone who, upon arriving at a beautiful destination, is thinking "we could have sex on that rock over there and that piece of grass, behind that tree...." Give me a break.

Are these things too much to ask?

The Rules Haven't Changed

Today on The View, Tom Brokaw said that NBC was a male dominated arena but then women came into the news picture and the rules changed. The rules didn't change Tom. Treat others as you wish to be treated has always been around. What changed was that men started having to follow the rules. Tom, Tom, Tom, think about what you are saying. He's old school so I guess I forgive him since he's one of my favorite news persons.

FINALLY Americans get off their asses

The 99%. YES, YES, YES, this is what we need. This is what I have said all along. Americans and everyone in the world need to put their foot down and tell the banks, the politicians and corporate America to shove it up their ass. We're not going to take it anymore. People don't realize what power they have. If you don't like the gas prices, stop buying gas. Believe me it won't take but a few days before the gas prices come down. If you don't like your bank, get a credit union account. Those institutions are member owned. You get to vote on what the rules are. Credit Unions came through the financial crisis just fine. Good for the protesters. Keep protesting and protest all around the world. It does work!

Mormons in Politics

So, here we are again debating Mitt Romney's religion. Is Mormonism a cult? Having been unwillingly forced to join the Mormon church I would say yes, absolutely, Mormonism is a cult. However, so are Catholics, Presbyterians, Methodists, Baptists and every other religion on the planet. They are all cults so what's the big deal? The best candidate for President would be an Atheist or Agnostic. We need someone filthy rich so the lobbyists can't buy him/her, no religion so the Christians can't buy him/her, a businessperson so they can figure out how to manage the nation's money, and openminded so he/she is willing to at least listen to all points of view.

If we don't get Christians out of government service, they will destroy the American people the same way they have wiped out and destroyed every other culture they have ever come in contact with.

Ramblings on current events

Having traveled around a little I have found that people are basically the same everywhere. We all want a decent home, healthy children, a job we can support our families with a few extra percs like time and money to take a little vacation every year, good schools, safe neighborhoods, a governing system we can have faith in, the freedom to practice whatever religion we choose, the means to defend ourselves if necessary (yes, I firmly believe in our 2nd amendment, the right to bear arms), healthy food, and a warm, loving community free of crime, gangs and drugs. Some people just go about getting those things in unorthodox ways. Men and women are basically the same all around the world as well. You have your bad apples, mooching men, mooching women. Hard working men and women.

The work ethic of our youth really concerns me. They are so instant gratification centered. They don't seem to want to do actual work for anything. This may be an American thing. These youth are going to be controlling my retirement funds. It scares me to death. I have the feeling we are going to hell in a hand basket and soon with countries like Greece going bankrupt. I feel we are in for a huge depression. I've got my yard ready for gardens and cut my expenses down to nothing but house payment, elec/water, and cable/internet/fone. If necessary, I can cut the internet and cable. I have hundreds of books. You know what? I don't think it would be a bad thing to do back to a simpler time.

Have a great day and remember:

"Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming: Wow - what a ride!"

It rained in Dallas, The Asian girl who "committed suicide" or was murdered in California after her soon to be step son fell down the stairs and later died. This is not news. How many other people committed suicide or were murdered and why weren't all their stories also reported? Real housewives show ending, the pressures of reality TV are you kidding? These people are absolutely ridiculous to start off with so thank whoever is up there listening that they are going off the air. Nothing but a bunch of whining, spoiled little bitches with nothing better to do but sit around and whine some more. Who wore what to the emmy's? People, people, people, Harry Reesner and Walter Chronkite are rolling over in their graves. I have news for you. You are making commentary, you are not reporting the news. Who are the worst? CNN, Fox Headline News, MSNBC News, well they are all horrible.

Losing Your Blog and Your Husband

I lost my blog. It took forever to find it. That's what I get for not posting often enough. I'm divorced now. After much fiasco I am single once again. I have decided I like being by myself. I just don't make good marriage material. I like putting things in my refrigerator and finding them just where I left them when I come home. I like paying the bills and knowing they are paid. I like knowing where all my dishes are. I like having alcohol in the house and having it last more than 24 hours. I like being able to put my medication on my bedside table and it's still there when I wake up. I like going to bed without having to wonder if some grunting, sweating man is going to want to have sex after they've spent the day treating me like shit. I like choosing what I want to watch on TV. I like deciding whether I want to cook or go out for dinner. I like dropping everything and just going where ever I want to without having to check in with someone. I like being able to just go buy something if I want to instead of having to check with someone else to see if they have squandered all the money they were supposed to pay bills with. I like being able to post on my blog without someone hanging over me suspicious of what I'm doing even though I have never given them even the vaguest hint of impropriety. Last but not least, I bought a house and I like remodeling it however I want to without someone else saying, "no, I want it done this way"