Friday, November 25, 2011

Half Century

I will be 50 on December 15th. Added to the Thanksgiving, Black Friday, My 50th Birthday and Christmas is my daughter Linzy's 32nd Birthday on Dec 1, and my trip to Texas Dec 17 -26. It's going to be a full month. I have nothing planned for my 50th. I don't know what my family or friends have planned if anything. I was one of those people who couldn't wait to get old. I never conformed to what the young people around me were. I am not volumptuous, or especially stylish, I can usually take men or leave them, I was never a party animal, I never identified with any TV or music character or emulated any of them. What I did know was that all the old people I knew didn't give a damn what they wore, didn't care if they gained a few pounds and did what they damn well pleased. THAT'S what I wanted and I couldn't wait to get old to have it. Now I have it and it's WONDERFUL! I own my own home (or will in 7 years and 3 months), I don't owe anything on my cars, furniture, electronics, have one credit card which I owe nothing on, I have two cute dogs, two cute daughters, four cute grandkids, my health is relatively good, I feel great (except for my shoulder which is healing) I'm 20 pounds overweight and don't care, I wear mens pajamas to bed and don't care, I don't wear any makeup most of the time and don't care. What more could I want?

Thursday, November 3, 2011

What I want in a Partner

Pam's acceptable significant other:

1. Educated or at least curious. I'm one of those people who can have just as much fun "making whoopi" as I can having a spirited conversation or debate with an interesting partner, even if their views are very different than mine.

2. They don't have to be a contest winner but I don't want to throw up or get scaird when I wake up next to them. No body builders, Hair is not necessarily a requirement although I do like it. It's just dead cells hanging from our heads. Just average build, I don't mind a slight spare tire. I'm 5'9" (175 cm) and weigh 160 pounds (11 stone, I don't know what you use for weight) I'm on a diet. I don't want some exercise fanatic but I would like someone fit enough to sail and likes to go for leisurely walks on occasion.

3. I don't need the person to be a Bill Gates or one of the Waltons. Money is nice but it's not everything. I live in a small house, it's mine and it's not a mansion and I'm not looking for someone to pick me up in a helicopter and sweep me off to Paris for lunch.

4. Have some awareness of themself, the world and the impact of their actions. I'm not a card carrying recycler or down at the beach everyday looking for whales to save but I am aware of my carbon footprint. I don't litter, try to use non aerosol products and try not to use too many chemicals or processed food because they just are not good for us.

5. Be comfortable in their skin. In other words, no macho or psycho idiots. I know who I am, I'm comfortable with who I am and I don't need to prove anything to anyone. I would like someone who is also comfortable in their skin. Wear a pink shirt, like the Carpenters music and admit it. Those are just examples.

6. Be ambitious. That doesn't mean be rich. That means want to improve your situation and have the drive to do it. I don't care if they are a plumber, be the best damn plumber in town.

7. Have a sense of humor. When we are 90 and sitting in our rocking chairs, I will still make my partner laugh and I would like that in return.

8. Sex. Sex is great, I'm the first to admit that but it is not the end all bomb of life. There are so many other things in life to be cherished, appreciated and done. I don't want to be with someone who, upon arriving at a beautiful destination, is thinking "we could have sex on that rock over there and that piece of grass, behind that tree...." Give me a break.

Are these things too much to ask?

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

The Rules Haven't Changed

Today on The View, Tom Brokaw said that NBC was a male dominated arena but then women came into the news picture and the rules changed. The rules didn't change Tom. Treat others as you wish to be treated has always been around. What changed was that men started having to follow the rules. Tom, Tom, Tom, think about what you are saying. He's old school so I guess I forgive him since he's one of my favorite news persons.